Tuesday, March 1, 2011

An Exploration of Unconditional Love cont...

Desperation is a terrible basis for union.

If the couple I just talked about had gotten married when they got scared they were about to lose each other, and stayed married on that basis, it would have been a desperate union. That kind of marriage sucks.

Loving the holy human prototype is more important than loving the personality.

The holy human prototype is the person you see when you look into someone else's eyes without prejudgment. The holy human prototype is like a child. It is the noticer. It is the being, just like you, just across from you. It is the being who, you can tell by just looking, like looking in a mirror, has the same kind of electric circuitry as yourself. You can love that being of the other as much as you love yourself. When that being is a child, you can love him/her more than yourself. Beings do a better job of loving each other than minds.

Things That Help Couples Have A Powerful Relationship

* Complete any incomplete relationships with your parental family. Go have a revealing conversation with your father, mother, brother, sister, or any important earlier relation. This gives you completion as well as practice in renewal. This helps you finish incomplete situations from the past so you can begin living in the present, being present to each other, and living toward the future.

This is one of the most frequent mistakes we make. How can we have a clean clear relationship if we ae stuck with too many connections to the past? We start making excuses for these connections and we are lost at that point.