Monday, February 28, 2011

An Exploration of Unconditional Love cont....

The man had a predictable built-in reaction to this, which was "Oh shit! Here we go again. Why can't I ever have a relationship work out? Just when I was thinking about us moving in together, she wants to back away. This is how it always goes. I am never quite good enough. I am good, but not good enough." As you see, the condition by this time had become two minds relating to each other as "Its", coming out of the same mouths that used to be used by their beings for love. They are both right about each other when they say "you changed" because, of course, both have changed. In just six weeks, they have changed from beings out of their mind with love into minded beings.


Half of these wonderful beginnings split up. If they are "like-minded" beings, they stay together in boredom the rest of their lives. If they escape their minds' beliefs about each other repeatedly, they have a successful relationship.

I talked to this particular man alone, and then to his lover and him together. I suggested that the way they had been telling the truth to each other in the beginning, and even in the moment of our speaking together, was what a powerful relationship is made of. I recalled to him and to myself how badly some of our previous relationships based on romantic love had worked out. I said, "Soap operas are full of people who are in love and start withholding from each other. The nostalgia for what used to be, combined with resentment and hope for renewal, produces what we call romantic love. Romantic love is highly overrated.  Romantic love is not as strong as a new friendship based on telling the truth. Romantic love is still fun, though not as romantic, without the tragic overtones of soap opera that come from withholding and being secretive.  Romantic love recurs, every now and then, rather than dying after the honeymoon is over, if people have open-to-each-other relationships. Keep working on telling the truth about everything that goes on with each of you and you can work your way through to a powerful relationship." That was my stand, and the place I listened to them from, and though I did my best and so did they, they didn't succeed. Those guys didn't make it. They parted, having learned another increment of information about relationships, but not a sufficient one to allow them to make that one work.

Sunday, February 27, 2011

An Exploration of Unconditional Love cont...

Next, after a few of these arguments, the two parties alternate between feeling insecure and feeling angry. When one gets angry, the other gets scared he or she is about to be abandoned. This alternating process occurs a few times. Then, a discussion like the following one occurs.

The fellow is his age makes no difference, has been divorced more than a few times, and is in a relationship with seeker who is being coached on having relationships based on telling the truth. His last lover had walked out on him; he still "loved" her, of course, since she had rejected him.

"I really love you", he said. "These month's since we met have been just great. I have never told anyone so much, or had such an honest relationship. I thought, in the beginning, there would be all kinds of bells and whistles. But there aren't any bells or whistles or rockets going off. I have dreaded this conversation for a some time now. I think I am more involved with you than you are with me. We have great sex. We laugh together all the time. But your not 'in love' like I have experienced before. And since we have been so honest about everything else I think we have to be honest about this."

Saturday, February 26, 2011

An Exploration of Unconditional Love cont....

Intimacy is not the same thing as romance.


Being "in Love" at the beginning of a relationship is wonderful. I think it is the result of us getting in touch with being, through another person. When you fall in love and get in that blissful state, you just love being, your being, and the being of the beloved, and the being of all beings in the world. You are "home" in that rediscovered sense of unity and bliss. As Kris Kristofferson sings:

She wasn't quite as pretty as
some others I have known,
and she wasn't good at
conversation when we were
alone,
but she had a way of makin' me
believe that I belonged.
And it felt like comin' home
when I loved her.

'Cause she brightened up my day
like the early mornin' sun
and she made what I was doin'
seem worth while.
Its the closest thing to livin' that
I guess I've ever known,
and it left me feelin' warm, when I loved her.

Kris Kristofferson, "When I Loved Her" 1968, BMG Music Publ.

It is not the way they look or how good they talk that makes us love who we love. Their ability to be with us is more powerful. It is their ability to make us "believe that we belong" that "leaves us feeling' warm", that renews that old spark that first happened in Mom an eternity ago.

Too bad that once we are warmed, and begin to "believe that we belong", the feeling becomes a belief to be preserved, and guarded, and defended, so the feeling will never go away. This of course, makes the feeling go away.

We end up resenting the person, with whom we used to be in love, for changing. When you start expecting the other person to live up to your expectations based on what you felt before, you are going to get disappointed and pissed off. If both people are in this place at about the same time, a nasty argument ensues. This hurt and anger get formulated into belief instead of gotten over. In a short while, you are trapped in the thought, "How could that bitch/bastard be so wonderful and so shitty to me? How can she/he be so cruel?"

Continues:

Friday, February 25, 2011

An Exploration of Unconditional Love - cont..

A Short Story –


One day many years ago I and a friend visited Mesa Verde for the first time! Upon entry into the park I had a short vision of the whole place going up in smoke. Two weeks after we got back home the park burned – every bit that was burnable when up like tinder.

In the picture below you can see that it was taken from a vantage point across the canyon. This can easily be reached by a short drive. It is in fact an overlook on the western edge in which one can look at all the buildings on the other side.





On this day it was hot I recall 104 degrees and there was not a whisper of air moving anywhere. Nothing…

I felt very close to the ancestors here and I thought I could feel them clustered around us everywhere we went. From a pouch that I carried for sacred acknowledgements and thanks I pulled a pinch of corn meal, said a prayer and then let it trickle out of my fingers. As it left my fingers a breath of wind came up and blew it straight across to the dwellings before it fell into them.

I was indeed shocked as were all the people around us who numbered about 15 or 20 people. I have two particular friends in spirit that walk my same path and in fact at times they allow me to communicate with them. I knew they were there and I knew they peaked my curiosity. I said to them if that was the ancestors I need to see this again because I am human and filled with doubt as is everyone one a path of the Sacred. I heard “do it again”! I did – and from a silent air a wind arose and blew the corn meal across to the dwellings again.

From that point on I have had a special connection with the Anasazi and Mesa Verde and when things get hard for me as they are at this time in my life I get great relief from allowing my SELF to travel to Mesa Verde and talk to our people who are still there and ready to sooth and heal a hurt heart and soul.

From this special connection – no one person can totally take my attention away from the important things in life which are indeed few in number! The Sacred Path is life’s priority and all else falls a distant third to it! While the hurt may be real, it comes from unreal beings that have no consciousness outside themselves and therefore when they set out to hurt another, they in reality only hurt themselves. That is a special teaching if one fully understands the context one can thank the ancestors and Creator for finding a place of solace for you when you need it.



Aho

Two Feathers

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

An Exploration of Unconditional Love Pt. 4

All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.
-Leo Tolstoy

As you might have noticed I changed the title of this series. In retrospect while the concept of intimacy turning to hate is a very real problem in our society that is not the message I am trying to get across. I am not in a place of hate and I don’t want to give that impression.

I am in a place of wonder however at the gross inept society that we live in.

To return America to a land of real honor you must first ask the indigenous people to forgive your forefathers mistakes and sins.

America is by far the most violent nation in the world today. Why America is so violent is the subject of much discussion and debate but never is anyone speaking to the real reasons or offering any real solutions.

Gun control, they say. We must put more controls. Yes more controls will do it. How about bullet control? Why not cutting everyone's hands off so if they want to shoot - only shooting with their feet. Yes, more controls. Let them keep their hands so they may vote for us. All in favor say Yea! The Yea's have it. More controls it is.

You want to understand why America is so violent, we are saying now; it is a curse from heavens for the violence committed upon the Native people upon their native soil. What goes around comes around.

Why is the Middle East suffering? For the same reasons, the sins of their ancestors who betrayed Prophet Muhammad and his companions and their continued disbelief - no effort to make amends. No remorse or sorrow.

Violence begets violence. It comes in many forms but the most destructive, abhorrent and vile violence is created within the family or the relationship and is mostly subtle and not immediately detectable. It comes in many forms such as a child being disrespectful to their parent or vice versa. Or woman seeking out a man for various reasons the most prevalent is support (gold diggers) but there can be excitement of the person as a reason or power or a host of other reasons and men do the same to women. What is worse is when they decide to get married and they make vows to each other not even having the slightest idea of what they are doing.

Does anyone anymore have any idea the power of a Vow and what happens when you break it? No it seems people only want instant gratification and to hell with the consequences. I once had a friend that I considered my best friend and she was from a people who would have rather died than break a vow. In fact they did die for their vows – century after century. I knew this going into the relationship and I knew how much she respected her ancestors and when a deeper connection came before us I readily agreed to it because I thought she knew the consequences of breaking those vows. But she did not or she thought the Universal Rules of Life didn’t apply to her or something because a few years later she broke those vows. When you break a vow, you effectively put a curse on yourself – most often for life.. You inevitably will suffer for this negative energy that you have surrounded yourself with. It may not be immediately apparent but it will come as sure as father Sun will be covered by the clouds of the cycle of life.

I would venture to say that most of the personal suffering that we do is a result of the breaking of Vows. How do I know such things? I pay attention to the minutest details of life and I listen to my ancestors. For example – the contemplation of the breaking of those vows came over a long period of time – I’m talking at least a year if not more. For a while the energy in our home was great and we were constantly in love with each other but there came a time when the contemplation and planning began, the energy turned very negative in our home to the point that even she was smudging the home to clear the energy on a daily basis. But it was no use because as she contemplated, the energy came back so day after day we suffered through this process. I knew what was up for having experienced this many times in the past. So I became fearful as well which did not help the situation.

Then the day of separation came. I dropped her off where she wanted to go. I went to work and came home. The energy was clear in my home and has stayed clear ever since she left. The first time I felt a need to smudge was 2 months later.

My point is this. First you never make a Vow that you don’t intend to keep. If you break it – you will pay for it in spades. As well as sometimes happens your loved ones will suffer along with you!

You say you are not responsible for what your ancestors have done? You say no, but you perpetuate the crimes and continue to reap the perceived rewards. But still you say you have no responsibility? You willingly inherited the benefits. Look all around you now at the world you have created…

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

An Exploration of Unconditional Love Pt. 3

All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.


Leo Tolstoy

In many if not most tribal settings the children’s upbringing is a function of the whole tribe with the moral teachings coming from the aunts and uncles, not the parents. The feeling is that an aunt or uncle are enough separated from the emotions of a mom or dad that the advice they provide will be more attuned to the consciousness of the child and not the wants and needs of the parent.

The children are not punished but are subject to the peer pressure of their age groups and much emphasis is placed on how each child is viewed by the tribe as whole. It seems a child will react much more positively when they are directed by the opinions of other people besides their parents whom a child will much more likely rebel against. This in turn results in the ability of the parent to show the child how much they are loved if the parent does not have to then discipline the child which puts the child in a place of doubt about how much their parent truly loves them if they are constantly correcting them. This creates a competitive environment for the child where their emotional growth is encouraged instead of repressed as in other races who take the attitude of get out of my space you little brat so I can live without the stress or the responsibility that I know I have created for you but am too damn selfish and into what I am doing to have any time for you…..

To me our white/black society is positively the most ignorant selfish environment a child could have the misfortune to be born into that one can think of. If a non-native would take the time to study and get to know the native culture of this land and see how differently a native child grows up and responds to positive surroundings and carries this into adulthood we wouldn’t be seeing the high numbers of crime, divorce and suicide that we see. To add insult to injury the native culture has done this for thousands of years. Who the hell is keeping this secret? Who in the end are the losers? The white materialistic Smith vs. Jones monetarily completive morons you see out there struggling to be adults in a sub-teenage emotional state of non-growth or the poor families of most Native groups who put their society and its healthy survival ahead of their own selfish desires?

To add even more insult to injury many tribal people have adopted the outside influences that are destroying their children and their families.

I’m not just making a general statement about the USA; I’m talking about how kids are raised all over the world. People cannot figure out why 2/3rds of the world hate us! It’s not about how much we have here vs. there; it’s about the influences our selfish, self-serving ignorant smug citizens have on the rest of the world’s impressionable people. They see our riches and excesses and then they see how our people are towards each other and the calculations do not add up. It seems to these people of different countries that if you do goodness all your life and help your societies to stay well then you’re doomed to lack, want and suffering. But if you do evil and I am making no bones about this – our country is attuned to evil. Don’t believe that? How do you explain what is happening in Wisconsin or Arizona? Hell – How do explain New Jersey :) If you’re self-serving, you’re rewarded with riches. How does that not fit in with what our traditional elders are trying to get across to our thick but miniscule brains?

Monday, February 21, 2011

An Exploration of Unconditional Love Pt. 2

All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.


Leo Tolstoy



I am going to attempt to show what I believe is the causation of all types of violence that is occurring in the world. While there are many forms of violence and the effects have many causes and come from many different places the reasons are coming from one place, one source and can in simplicity be resolved with a very different result than what we are seeing. What we are seeing coming from our species is there because if the lack of true intimacy in our lives. I question my own use of the word intimacy because it only engenders a limited understanding of what it truly represents but in reality intimacy extends to all aspects of our lives and we have to learn to extend it in all areas of our existence.

What we as a species tend to aspire to is a mimicry of those in our society that seem to get an inordinate amount of attention. Unfortunately this attention by all definitions is usually negative, one that attracts the interest of the general public and sells itself to the public as a way to be noticed and also to make money in the form of media attention. When we see someone doing good in our society we generally give an honorable mention if that and go on our way to the next noise maker. These noise makers cast themselves as victims and scream and yell until they get their way much like two year olds who have not learned that there are other ways to gain what they want.

In most Native Cultures the responsibility to teach right from wrong – good from evil – give vs. take is delegated by Creator to be the woman’s responsibility. In many native societies the culture is a matriarchal one and the patriarchs are expected to follow the woman’s directions. The women are heads of council they can be chiefs but normally select a responsible male for that role with the knowledge that the male is a stronger source of power because of their physicality! However the Chief is expected to follow the woman’s direction without question.

When there is a marriage in a matriarchal setting the man if he be Seneca by birth marries an Oneida he then takes the surname of his wife and becomes and is expected to adopt the Oneida culture. Why does this work so well in Native society and why is it not adopted by other societies if it works so well? Good question, it works because men by and large are warrior/hunter/providers and are disassociated from their families for long periods of time. They know little of the inner workings of the people while the women are in that circle almost 100% of the day and so have the greater control of what happens from minute to minute. Men are ego filled – strength associated – defenders of their circle and are expected to do many acts of various violence in order to protect their people. The reason for the Ego being so large is they are expected to perform insane acts of bravery in order to successfully defeat any challenger. Whenever they defeat an enemy they go through an incredible array of emotional reactions knowing they just looked death in the face and came out of it alive. In short these emotional reactions are not a good place to then make decisions regarding the peaceful interaction of the tribe.

“Well”, you might exclaim “that was then and this is now, there is no comparison to how they lived then vs. how we live now”! I beg to disagree, when in fact I believe things are so far out of balance today vs. the balance of the tribe 200 years ago that the situation is close to insane! Take the woman for instance; she has been stripped of all her connection to the influence and satisfaction of decision making for her family to the point that if she doesn’t have a successful career she isn’t a man. You heard it – I said a woman these days is expected to be men. Women’s lib anybody? While the man is going to work day after day knowing full well in the back of his mind that his and the survival of his family is dependent upon the whims of another person. If they are fired today they are out on the street tomorrow without any support of their tribe because they don’t have one. Homeless – Helpless – Hungry! Human destruction anyone?

Next time – more of this insanity! - Redhawk

Sunday, February 20, 2011

An Exploration of Unconditional Love


All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.
       - Leo Tolstoy

Oki
I am going to take drastic detour from my normal ranting's to a place much more personal and closer to the heart. Some of you I am sure are going to be angry at what I am about to disclose and will ask to be unsubscribed from my mailing.  That is fine if you cannot face truth now then so be it but I intend to post this on my blog as well.  http://natalk.blogspot.com/
So if you start to come down off your bruised ego to a point of thinking maybe you don't know everything you can go there and read these postings.
On my way home today from Queensbury and grocery shopping I got caught up in listening to the 50th Anniversary of Amnesty International on NPR and what it was attempting to accomplish and found myself wondering how the hell did we get to a place where such an organization is necessary. I look at the incredible selfishness of public employees across this great nation as demonstrated in Wisconsin to the Jasmine Revolution in China and I hear loudly and clearly the screams of a very unhappy group of the Human Race that is yelling " We are mad as hell and We aren't going to take this anymore."
I hear this and I ask why are we in the year 2011 and still dealing with stuff that should have been resolved in the dark ages? This in my opinion comes from a very basic place in our humanity which talks to our perceived well being and what is being demonstrated by the public at large as the way to accomplish the ideal life.
I am going to talk about the Intimacy of Romance and all that it's accepted evil entails to the abuse of the mate in place of the love of the mate that should be the result of the truth of love and its success.  This is going to lead down a very personal road for me and I believe my life is a simple magnification of the individual experiences of others who are I am sure processing these same experiences to a lesser but no less damaging experience of life. I am 64 years old and this enables me to a place of honesty that in earlier years would not be so forthcoming. I have experienced the lack of love to the point of total discouragement of the human condition but I am not looking to extend my love/non-love experience so this enables me to a place of honesty that otherwise would discourage my hope of ever overcoming this failing. 
Why? Because I believe this is the reason and the source of our problems as a society. Our experiences of relationship are what determine how we react to life as we know it in all its many variations. Example my dog tore up the living room the other day. I could have responded in anger and disciplined him severely however that couldn't be my response to such a loving companion. What was he trying to say to me? I know what he is saying and I am at a loss to know what to do about it. But I know I cannot teach him more anger….
So with all that said I will begin where there seems to be no end. Note this is an exposition of my life so to speak. While it is shameful, I have nothing to be ashamed of, but because I am Native American many people have attempted to take advantage of who I am. To those I say – if anything is uncovered that makes you uncomfortable –I am sorry but the story is going to be told. If you feel you wish to pursue me legally be my guest and stand in line. We will see how much more exposure your willing to stand up to by going to a public court. Win or lose your still exposed.
Subject: Maxine Poses a Question







Let me get this straight . . . ..

We're going to be "gifted" with a health care
plan we are 
forced to purchase and fined if we don't,

Which purportedly covers at least ten million more people, without adding a single new doctor,
but provides for 
16,000 new IRS  agents,

Written by a committee whose chairman says
he
 
doesn't understand it,

passed by a Congress that didn’t read it
but
exempted themselves from it,
and signed by a President who smokes,
with funding administered by a treasury
chief who
didn't pay his taxes,

for which we’ll be taxed for four years  before any “benefits” take effect,

by a government which has already bankrupted Social Security and Medicare,

all to be overseen by a surgeon general who
is
 
obese,

and financed by a country that's broke!!!!!

What the hell could Possibly go wrong?




Tuesday, February 8, 2011

The Law of Lessons

We live at the behest of ourselves in order to learn the True lessons of life. Among these teachings are that you never hurt anyone including those that seem to aggravate you the most.

If a person aggravates you - you can bet they are getting a bit close to home and you must listen to the lesson. Those that aggravate the most have many of the qualities that you have that you wish you could abolish.

Those who hold grudges or use them to further their own agenda's are the Sacred Evil in our world! When challenged by Sacred Evil one must not give in to the temptation of retribution but instead think and do kind deeds for these vendors of terror! Through your unselfish acts of Love and compassion they will become less Evil and even begin to change for the greater good according to Creators laws.

If you cannot forgive a persons unkind words or deeds you become exactly the pain and suffering that you believe they have inflicted upon you. You will then live to re-experience the unkindness and the hurt that you believe has been done to you. To overcome these issues you do exactly the opposite that your fight or flight response is prompting you to do. You face the issue, you experience the issue, you hold it to your heart and you overcome it, not run away from it.

Aho - Two Feathers

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.



A poem from the English Poet William Ernest Henley

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